{"id":2268,"date":"2020-04-15T17:41:39","date_gmt":"2020-04-15T15:41:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/paartherapie-coupletherapy.de\/?p=2268"},"modified":"2020-05-12T13:51:26","modified_gmt":"2020-05-12T11:51:26","slug":"growth-in-times-of","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/paartherapie-coupletherapy.de\/en\/growth-in-times-of\/","title":{"rendered":"Growth in times of …"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Never waste a crisis!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Wir hatten die Begegnung mit uns selbst aufgeschoben. Nun erklingt aufs Neue die grundlegende Vibration unserer Existenz.  <\/p>Felwine Sarr, S\u00fcddeutsche Zeitung 14.4.2020 <\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

In his notes from Dakar, Felwine Sarr suggests using this period of enforced isolation to listen to the fundamental vibration of our existence <\/em> as we resume our long postponed encounter with ourselves (his article in full under https:\/\/sz.de\/1.4875023).<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resilience is a concept well known to most of us. It describes the skill (or aptitude) of individuals to gain well-being and stability after severe trauma or deprivation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I still remember how excited I was at university in London in 1985, as I heard Garmezy explaining this concept. At last,I tought, psychology investigating protective factors! The question Garmezy and his team in Chicago were posing seemed so necessary to me at the time: which factors can we identify in the lives of severely underprivileged children that help them stabilize and lead happy, succesful lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my work as a couples’ therapist, I still find it very helpful to explore resilience. When I ask my clients about the skills they have had to come up with when overcoming difficult times in the past, the conversations opens up, addressing ressources, competences and successes .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And by adding another model, namely that of posttraumatic growth<\/strong>, Tedeschi and Calhoun have pushed the discussion even further. Posttraumatic growth implies that some of us not only survive <\/em>but actually thrive <\/em>through adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So what does that imply for the couples I work with?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For couples who want to thrive (rather than just muddle through) these intensely challenging times, I have rounded a up a few questions. They can be helpful in exploring together whether the state of crises we find ourselves in is actually an opportunity for a couple’s collaborative growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n