Couples always decide for themselves how many sessions they would like to have. Most couples arrange six sessions to find a way to improve their relationship so both partners are happier.
I don’t believe talking always helps. If couples always say or don’t say the same thing, and always hear or don’t hear the same thing, then it causes frustration and leads to a feeling of hopelessness. What can help? Different conversations, new information, positive surprises and new strategies. And most of all: having new experiences as a couple. We normally leave a gap of three-to-four weeks between meetings to ensure couples have sufficient time for these new experiences. I provide you with recommendations and “homework” to support you during this time.
Couples therapy with just one partner is also an option. In these cases, I work with individual clients to help improve their relationship. This can be very successful, because the quality of a relationship and the partners’ life can change when one individual in the system changes. It is also my experience that partners who are initially reluctant or sceptical have concerns of their own and soon decide to come to a counselling session.
Let us consider together how you have developed in your relationship, and what needs and messages are at the root of your crisis… And what you can do to get back to that place where you feel you do work.
A separation is associated with considerable emotional costs and is possibly one of the most difficult decisions of your entire life. As a couples therapist, I help couples to recognise the opportunities they have before they give up.
The costs of couples therapy, couples counselling or marriage counselling are generally not covered by health insurance.
“Man muss Geduld haben mit dem Ungelösten im Herzen, und versuchen, die Fragen selber lieb zu haben, wie verschlossene Stuben, und wie Bücher, die in einer sehr fremden Sprache geschrieben sind. Es handelt sich darum, alles zu leben. Wenn man die Fragen lebt, lebt man vielleicht allmählich, ohne es zu merken, eines fremden Tages in die Antworten hinein.“
Rainer Maria Rilke, “Brief an einen jungen Dichter“