If you suffer a physical injury, would you wait weeks or even years before seeing a doctor? Probably not, because you know that a doctor can assess what’s wrong and treat it before things gets worse.
Unfortunately, most couples don’t think of emotional injuries in the same way. The average couple waits six years before seeking help, and by that point it can too late.
The good news is that, according to the research, prevention is 3x more effective than intervention. Getting help early is the key to staying ahead of gridlocked marital conflict.
Whether you’ve been married for six months or 60 years, you can always learn new relationship skills. We’re still learning, too.
This is from John Gottman’s wonderful blog ” The marriage minute” see under: https://www.gottman.com/the-marriage-minute/